Manna
05 January 2012 @ 08:34 pm
Basically, if someone tells you that a word is offensive to them, stop saying it. It's that simple.

I mean, people make jokes about saying shit like, "See what I mean?" in front of a blind guy, but that's pretty much the point of getting people to stop saying offensive terms. I'm sorry, but if I were blind, people purposefully saying stuff like, "See what I mean?" would grate on my nerves extremely fast. The third time I heard it, my fist would be knocking their teeth out.

Sometimes offensive terms/sayings aren't quite so obvious, though.

So when someone points them out, a polite response is really all that's required-- whether or not you change how you speak/act/feel is entirely up to you. Nobody can MAKE you change.
 
 
 
 
Manna
05 January 2012 @ 08:32 pm
This person is a serious fucking douche. For the first time since coming to this site, I've put a note on their account reminding me that they are, well, seriously assholeish.

Really? REALLY? "Ret-tard" is not a creative insult for a "retribution paladin". It just makes you look like a huge asshat because you feel the need to pound that statement into this person. Were they a dick for rolling on gear they didn't really need? Over people who did? Yeah. They were.

But that's not license to be an asshole yourself-- not even to other assholes.

Flashing fucking neon sign here: THEY'RE not hurt by being called a "ret-tard". You know. The people you're angry at? Yeah. They're not hurt.

Now, I'm not usually the type to jump on people for their language. People I know IRL who use the word/phrase "retarded" usually get a look. "That's gay" gets an even sterner look. I mean, FFS, this shit has been made really obvious on and offline for years.

Fuck. When I was like, 15 my friends and I said, "Okay, we're going to stop saying, "That's gay", and, "That's retarded". It's a horrible habit, it's insulting and hurtful to other people. If one of us says it, someone else needs to slap them." Twenty slaps down the road, and we were cured of our bad speech.

I know terms like "Huntard" are pretty popular in-game, and I try to overlook them most of the time. I know a lot of people don't really make the connection.

But here's the thing: When you play with:

a.) An idiot
b.) An asshole
c.) A clueless noob

And you call them "retarded" (either via saying "you're retarded" or by calling them a "huntard" or a "ret-tard") or gay? You are essentially saying that being retarded (mentally handicapped) or gay makes you:

a.) an idiot
b.) an asshole
c.) a clueless noob

Aaaand last time I checked, mentally handicapped people (those under all classifications/who consider themselves or relatives/friends as such) and homosexuals were none of those things. They are, well...uhhhh...people. Human. With feelings and shit. I mean, how can someone forget that?

And then people point at shit like, Tales of Symphonia or Fire Emblem 9/10 and say, "Oh, the racism/ist-attitude isn't very realistic/it doesn't make sense", when we see SUCH SIMILAR ASSHATTERY IN OUR EVERYDAY LIVES.

I mean, for fuck's sake-- there are just too many people out there who think that if you're gay/bi/pan/whatever/mentally handicapped/a different nationality/a different religion/no religion/etc, that you're less than human. Now you tell me that if there were other races-- completely different races/types of people-- in the real world, that we wouldn't be fucking horrible to them as a collective whole?

That's what I thought.

Now I'm not saying that I expect everyone to RIGHT NOW stop saying offensive things. I mean, I do agree that some terms probably shouldn't be universally banned as "offensive"-- the Internet likes to try and control these things a bit much. I'm sure their hearts are in the right place, but they really need to also embrace Individualism on some level.

For example:

I don't find the term "lame" to be offensive. I've heard it my WHOLE LIFE. And I researched the shit out of horses and read so many books about the Oregon Trail/Wild West that I knew that "lame" also meant, "ruined" or "broken". (i.e., a lame horse is one who limps/can't walk, usually due to a broken leg or something.) It's in the Bible, too.

But I never really said, "That's lame!" and connected it, in any way to lame horses or human beings. I guess in my book, they were two completely different things.

I don't personally find the term offensive, but some people might! I mean, some disabled people hate to be called "disabled". Some prefer "handicapped", other prefer "handicapable". Some hate the term "crippled". It's really a huge personal thing.

But IMO people on both sides need to learn to calm the fuck down sometimes. If you jump on my back and tell me a word I've used all my life is offensive? It's a shock, first of all, and that's if I even believe that what you're telling me is the truth. Secondly, Patience goes a long way-- if you're going to critique a story, you are supposed to explain what the problem is and how to fix it, so saying, "you're being a dick by saying that," really just makes you look like a dick because you're not explaining why that's offensive. WHY doesn't a comma go there? WHY don't I need to explain where X is going? WHY IS THAT WORD OFFENSIVE?

Because-- GASP-- what is really fucking obvious to you MIGHT NOT BE OBVIOUS TO OTHER PEOPLE. WHOA. WHAT? NO WAI!

I know, right? Who would have thought? I get tired of this "mind reading" bullshit I keep seeing. People can't read your bloody mind, guys. It's just as bad as the stupid Fire Emblem Anon Meme-- people say they don't like a character/ship/author's fics, but they don't say why. People assume the worst (ass out of u and me, of course) and jump on them. There is dogpiling, and QQing, and people defriending. Some blame splashes onto everyone.

So. See someone saying something douchey?

Tell them in as nice a way as you can that it's an offensive word and they might want to edit. If you're not a mod, don't insist that they edit. Link to rules if you must. Make yourself clear. Don't attack them personally.

However, if they continue to act like a dick, like the above-linked bullshitter:

Dear people who want to complain about ablist language. I bet you use sexist, classist or racist insults daily without even noticing. Lousey? Nappy headed?
Yup. you're guilty.


^What kind of asshole edit is that? But if their reply is pretty much that? Then insult them all you want give it up. YOU CAN'T WIN. (I hear Star Fox 64 in my head when I say that.)

I mean, we can't make everybody change, guys. We can't eliminate every "ist" word that appears, that someone, somewhere considers an "ist" word. "Silly" and "Crazy"? I doubt those will ever truly go out of style, but some people consider them "ist" words.

I think a little Meet in the Middle is in order, though. Start small. Work your way up. Jumping all over everyone for every other word they say? Is just going to make them want to kill you. You will be as bad as those idiots who verbally correct your use of the English language in public/in front of your boy/girlfriends/etc, because you said "was" instead of "were". I don't like those people.

But a kind side of, "Oh, did you know that word is pretty hurtful to a lot of people? Might wanna consider using it less." works wonders. Trust me. Pick your battles wisely, etc etc. <--Always good advice. You can't fight two battles at once. ;)

That said, I love how some people want to eliminate every other word in the English language, but think it's TOTALLY OKAY to talk about legitimate phobias in front of other people who have them. Because it's lolsofunny or something. Sorry, it's not. If I had a needle phobia and you came up to me and started talking all about getting a shot in vivid detail just to be a prick? I would fucking deck you in the face.

But what does this all boil down to?

Treat others how THEY want to be treated.

I'm not all pro-active about shit, guys. (Unless it's annoying the fuck out of the Fire Emblem fandom by "pushing all the good fics off the front page".)

But I worked around a mentally handicapped guy who was in his 50s who a.) got really angry, and b.) cried, when he so much as HEARD the word "retard". And we were working at Subway. Where the bread goes in the "retard" and the bread is "being retarded" in there. <--official terms, but we just said "walk-in cooler" after we learned the term hurt the guy.

I mean, how many times had he been hurt in his life by that word? Sticks and stones my ass-- sometimes words can be a powerful weapon. And people. Just. Forget that. All the time.
 
 
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Manna
20 October 2011 @ 09:21 pm
 
If I could have a real teapot with Wallace's head on it, I would be the coolest person alive.

That said, this entry is actually to say that [livejournal.com profile] bkamiro gave me a very heartfelt, formal apology, which I have accepted. I hope you all can forgive him, too.

I should have waited a little longer for a response, should not have been so hasty, et cetera and so on, and I admit this. After the deal with the other plagiarists, I did jump the gun. So I apologized to him for throwing his reputation in the garbage without even thinking, first.

EDIT 27TH OCT 2011:

Changed the tag.

Also, concerning Bkamiro:

SRRY2SAY but if you have a ~spotless~ rep and it was built on lies and plagiarism, you didn't deserve that rep to begin with, now did you?

I was the author of that story. He stole it, changed some words. He even stole my author note! He knew it was plagiarism when he did it. The guy's a college student at a fairly well-known university, for fuck's sake!

Don't try to tell me that I went way overboard in saying what I did to him. HE STOLE MY FUCKING STORY. STOLE IT. COPY/PASTED IT AND CHANGED THE NAMES.

That is not a "mistake". That is "stealing". Is it a mistake because he got caught? Is it a mistake because he regrets doing it? Who knows? Thing is, that story wasn't taken down until I PM'd him to ask why he had stolen my 'fic. And then I didn't hear from him for hours. Just. Deleted. No response.

He probably had class like he said he did. I don't doubt him that. I also don't doubt that. I believe him. I also believe he was sorry for doing it. I mean, his rep might be stained, but that's what you get when you steal someone else's story.

Plagiarism IS NOT OKAY.

IT HAS NEVER BEEN OKAY.

IT WILL NEVER BE OKAY.

As the author of the stolen story, I have EVERY RIGHT to push down the reputation of the person who took the time to copy/paste my 'fic and slap it on their account, claiming to have written it themselves. It's not like there was even an "inspired by" tag in it.

This isn't me being mad at Bkamiro, because I've had enough of that shit. This is me being mad at the other people who keep telling me I went ~way overboard~, at the hypocrits who are trying to trash MY rep in this fandom when I was the one whose 'fic was stolen.

FFS, don't EVER take the side of someone just because they're a "Friend" without first looking at the facts.
 
 
Manna
20 October 2011 @ 06:04 pm
Caution when it comes to [livejournal.com profile] bkamiro. I have removed him/her from my friends-list.

Compare: His story to My story.

^Not even remotely funny. Not sure if any other works are blatant rip-offs or plagiarized works, but I urge everyone to take a look through his stuff and see that your stuff hasn't been stolen.

Thanks, Ammie, for pointing this out. <3

And I suspect the story has already been deleted, because it's not letting me access the review page. EITHER WAY: It was screenshotted if it did get removed, and if not, you can check it out at the link above.

If the person behind Bartholomew is reading this? Not amused.

MADE PUBLIC FOR GREAT JUSTICE.

Edit: Apparently he's legit. One thing to say, bro: don't take other people's stories without asking permission, and definitely don't go and copy the entire format of their story and claim it as your own. :/ Also, not replying to my PM makes you suspect, not innocent-looking. Especially when the story was deleted.
 
 
Manna
This is Fire Emblem related, so the rest of y'all can read or skim over if you so choose.

To whoever keeps fucking accusing people of trolling on the anon meme:

I don't know who you are. But cut it out. I was going to just reply to the latest comment on the anon meme, but I'm choosing to say it here instead.

I know I preach a lot. To the choir, most of the time. But I had hoped that this post would dispel all of the TROLLOLOLOL responses of other people on the anon meme.

Apparently it didn't! So in case it didn't sink through anyone's skull the first time...

I'LL SAY IT AGAIN:

We're not a hive-mind, we don't all think exactly the same. We each have our own individual thoughts and opinions.

Voicing them does not mean we're attacking someone else or trolling a particular person or the fandom as a whole.


GASP!!!

I know, right? Who would have thought that someone MIGHT DISAGREE WITH OTHER PEOPLE? That some folks might be insecure about their writing, or not like certain characters, or dislike genderbending in 'fic or [insert whatever-the-fuck right here].

I'm not trying to defend anyone in particular, least of all from the anon meme of doom. But!

I'm getting SICK AND TIRED of someone popping out of the woodwork to cry TROLL!!! every time someone speaks their mind. SRRY2SAY, FANDOM, but someone speaking their mind =/= trolling.

STOP TRYING TO RENDER THE FEELINGS OF SOMEONE ELSE INVALID, PEOPLE.

Because, yeah. The anon that posted that? Is a person.
 
 
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Manna
On the Fire Emblem fandom and the wank in it. Posted here instead of my fandom journal so that things are more personal. Or something like that.

Soapboxing below the cut. Click/read at your own risk.

This post is public. Anyone is welcome to comment. Please be civil in your responses to me and to other people.

Let me preface this with a statement: I'm not preaching to you guys as some kind of do-good holy righteous paladin of virtue. I'm guilty of doing some of the things mentioned below-- and I daresay that most of us are, as well.

I'm also not going to really bring places like GameFaqs or SerenesForest into this conversation. This is primarily about the Livejournal Fire Emblem fandom.

General "you" throughout.

Snip, snip! )

Comments/thoughts/discussion welcome as always. I definitely don't think everyone will agree with me 100%. And definitely, if you have any more thoughts/concerns/whatever, feel free to add them to the pile in the comments below.

(Note: My format was totally eaten when I copied over from Wordpad, so I apologize if my paragraphs that were oh-so neat are now kind of messed up. I tried to fix them, but I could only do so much.)
 
 
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